March 2011
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A Bowen family systems coach in Collaborative... →
This article highlights the approach of Woody Mosten in Collaborative Law interdisciplinary Training re emotional outbursts. He demonstrates client self-soothing. And he reframes the highly laden…
April 2010
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The Human costs and benefit of Separation or... →
Let’s start with the known costs of failure born of the macho mindset. Then we will seek the main benefit of suddenly having to face family law issues. In the 1993 book, Man Enough, Frank…
December 2009
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Avoid the Holiday Blues →
I hope you are all taking the opportunity to enjoy your family and social connections now that you are half way through the year end holidays. This is a fine time to show your family how much you…
August 2009
4 posts
What stresses and successes do Jerry Remy and...
I do not pretend to know them and their personal ordeals. So I offer only general comments borne of public knowledge shared by RemDawg, the NESN color commentator and Youk, current Sox infielder.
They are learning how to cope with real and potentially increasing bodily and career decline, two emotional stressors that challenge all of us. When the body fails us, thoughts of metaphorical and real...
Funny People: a mini review of new Apatow flick
Death, dying, and possible reprieve grab the foreground at the start of Judd Apatow’s new movie, Funny People. The focus on dying will keep a lot of critics and movie go-ers at bay, but the laughs and the new beginning foci will please quite a few humble folk, as sparse as they may be these days. By the end of the picture, we no longer have a failure to communicate, largely because...
It is HOW not just what you tell your children...
Often saddened by typical sessions with couples on the verge of divorce, I have helped them whenever possible by having them rehearse together how to finally tell their children about this impending family crisis.
I tell them that first they need to sit down soon, all family members together. I encourage them to prepare and refine 45 seconds of explanation that refer both to their parents’...
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June 2009
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PLEASE FACE MONEY CONFLICTS BEFORE HAND
One really needs to stay objective and thinking with one’s head, as much as heart right from the beginning of any partnership. For a sense of financial well being it behooves one to learn one’s partner’s idiosyncratic reactions to earning, sharing, and investing money. Your partner’s relationship to money, even if raised by the same (e.g. siblings in the business) or...